Some people have all the luck. They get the good jobs, they’re swarming with friends, and people are just lining up to be included in their social circle. These people probably don’t need much advice from us.

We’re more concerned with the rest of society: the guy who seems to have an uncanny knack for repelling people, for instance. Or the people who stick their feet so far in their mouths every time they speak that medical science had to develop a new specialty devoted to removing them.

Maybe these unfortunate souls aren’t just biologically programmed for a life of social flubs and loneliness. Maybe they are unknowingly attracting negative vibes by using poor grammar, assuming a threatening or confrontational body position, or making everything sound like an accusation. Shilpan Patel gives you six ways that people attract negative vibes on Dumb Little Man.

Other people are so obnoxious and pitiful in their everyday actions that they can cause themselves to be lonely and friendless without ever realizing why. See if you can spot any of your own behaviors in Sally Bishai’s 12 Ways to Turn People Off.

There’s always help, though. If you’re one of those people who lack the social graces that other people seem naturally gifted with, the trusty internet is teeming with information on how to attract friends, get a social life, and create your own positive life experiences. Who knows? Maybe one day you’ll be one of those social butterflies that other people envy.