Life Hackery

Aside from your girlfriend’s parents, it’s her friends you have to get along well with in order to keep your relationship strong. This is true if you’re still in the process of courting her, but even if you two are already a couple, staying on her friends’ good side always helps. Whether you like it or not, her friends have a very high influence on her, maybe even higher than yours. They have also most probably made it their life mission to protect her from guys and chances are, when she started dating you, they’ve already decided that you are not good enough.

The good news is, you are not totally lost. They can be won over and when they are, they will be very helpful in making sure that your relationship with your girl succeeds. Who knows, you might even become close to them Not only do you get the love of your life, but you also gain new buddies. So here are some useful tips for you win them. It’s going to be an uphill battle, soldier, but keep at it and you will succeed. You must!

1. Keep a low profile. When meeting her friends, don’t immediately try to impress them. Instead, lay back, have them hog the limelight, and observe. They may have different personalities but almost always, there are always the archetypes. One will be the nerdy friend, the boring one, the life of the group, the joker, the sullen, you get the idea. Identify which one will be the best ally and which ones will not have any significant impact, for future reference.

2. Don’t flirt with the attractive one. Your girl will almost always have an attractive friend, the one you’d hit on if you had met her first. Well, here’s a tip: don’t show any interest in her. Keep things friendly. Don’t stare at her, whether openly or discreetly. It will only end in two ways: either she flirts back and you both get hell for it, or she’ll get angry at you, in which case you’ll be the only one getting hell for it.

3. Agree with them, but don’t be a wuss. You almost always have to agree with most of their opinions, but paradoxically, if you do this all the time, you will be seen as a spineless wuss. You’ll be branded as “not good enough for her”. The trick is be agreeable on general opinions and matters which will have no consequence in the future. If they think that the food in the place sucks, agree, even if you think it’s the best one in town. If you must disagree on something they said, such as politics or religion, do so but be polite about it. Or better yet, just shut up, unless they ask for your opinion, in which case default to the preceding sentence.

4. Don’t get in the way between her and them, at least in the beginning. If your girl tells you they want to hang out with her, then tell her it’s up to her; let her decide, otherwise they’ll see you as a threat and will do all they can to kick you out of her life. Your main goal here is to make you as non-threatening to them as possible. When you’ve gotten enough points with them, then you can start being more assertive.

5. Don’t show your boredom. Yes, there will always be the bore, and chances are she’s the closest to your girl. Gain extra points by showing interest in everything she says, even if it’s just how she managed to help a puppy cross the other side of the street. Just nod and add in a few interjections. When you feel your eyes get droopy, well, just think of how she’d look like naked. That always works. Just don’t blurt it out, though.

6. Don’t compete with the guys. There will almost always be a guy friend. Whether he courted your girl before and ended up just being her friend, or whether he’s gay, it doesn’t matter. Never assert your superiority with him. Even if he looks like someone smashed a beer mug on his face and lowered his IQ by 80 points, make him feel he’s the alpha male. Again, don’t wuss up, though. It’s one thing to make him think he’s cool. It’s another thing to kiss his ass. In this army of girls and X chromosomes, the guy may be your most valuable ally.

7. Don’t be a smart-ass. Everyone hates a smart-ass. If you’re the type who finds biting sarcasm and wit a very good exercise, then you might want to keep it in check. Sure, one of her girl friends may look fat, but don’t ask her how the whale was for breakfast. If you have to be witty, make sure it makes them laugh.

8. More tips on how to make friends.

Generally, just be the normal, cool guy that your girlfriend fell in love with, otherwise, you wouldn’t have ended up with her in the first place, would you? In times like these, it always pays to keep this Golden Rule in mind. Remember, in their eyes, you have yet to prove yourself. It might take a while, but if you keep at it, you eventually will. If you enjoy reading this article, you’ll surely be interested in learning how to be a good boyfriend.