Life Hackery

Liking someone is a common nature of humans, given everyone’s need for love, appreciation and attention. When you see someone who fits your every standard, you have no choice but to feel something for that person. You will probably invite him or her for a few dates for you to know that individual better. By the end of the date, if your romantic prospect suddenly delivers a line like this - “I really like someone, I just thought you should know;” what will you do?

You should be ready for circumstances like this, especially if your partner is a rather hot commodity on the dating market. The moment you waver, you stand at losing the person that you have been longing for. Of course, that is always a possibility, but you would rather lose the battle fighting, unless the situation states that you’re way out of line. For the hapless daters and emotional wrecks out there, here are eight things you can do when your romantic prospect likes another person.

1. Spy on the Competition

When your romantic prospect announces that he or she is in love with someone else, do not look harassed or distressed. The news is surely painful, but the game is not over until your prospect is formally in a relationship. You can become closer to him or her by acting like a friend. In time, your crush will start telling you stuff about the competition, including his or her strengths and weaknesses.

• Be the Better Version of your Competition - Grab all the information you can get and use them to your full advantage. You can display the competition’s strong points, without showing any trace of his or her weaknesses. When they get in an argument, which is inevitable, you can show up and become the better dating alternative.
• Know Your Prospect Through Your Competitor - Another advantage when you fish for information is you will know how to attract your prospect even further. With your competition’s moves out in the open, you can base your strategies on his or her success. Improve on them then uphold your personalty, so your prospect will recognize your methods as natural components of your behavior. Your success may not be certain, but you will definitely stand a fighting chance.
• Lambast Your Opponent’s Weak Points - When your prospect narrates to you your opponent’s problem areas, see it as a chance for you to attack. Be objective when criticizing your opponent, so you will not sound too antagonistic. For instance, your date shares that her crush has a history of going out with several women. Tell her - “Men are natural bigamists. Good thing I do not fall in the default category.” Now your task is to live by what you just stated, or keep yourself from getting caught. Remember, reputation is one of the most important parts of early dating.

The biggest drawback of acting like a friend is being placed in the dreaded “friend zone.” Getting out of that label, without any consequences, is just as hard as topping the bar exams. When the situation is starting to point towards that direction, you can either be silent or disrupt things with a playful one-liner. Keeping some tension is important, so your prospect will not relegate you into an unfair category. (Tips on how to become a spy)

2. Bad Advice

The competition may be currently in the lead but if you give your prospect bad advice, you can surely catch up at any given moment. Befriend the metaphorical apple of your eye to the point that he or she tells the latest happenings with him/her and the competition. Comment on the situation, as if you are a life coach, then make your partner believe that doing the wrong things is his/her best moves. Though, you should prepare a pretty convincing argument, or else the whole ploy will backfire. Always be objective and praise the competition from time to time, so your prospect won’t suspect any foul play.

3. Rumors are Allies

One of the cardinal rules of dating is to know your opponent, especially the detestable things about him or her. Dig up dirt about his or her past and start talking about those things with your friends and acquaintances. Find a particularly nosy person, who is known to spread rumors around town. Tell that fellow the bad traits or deeds of your dating competition. You can even make up stories, if you are pretty desperate. Just make sure no one will know that the rumor originated from you. Start the smut job with something like this - “I heard this from one of my acquaintances, <insert rumor>.”

4. Stay Consistent

If the competition was already in the picture when you appeared, there is a chance that your prospect is too preoccupied with his/her crush to notice your good points. You just have to stay consistent with your actions, your stories and your personality, which your prospect will eventually notice. You may be behind in the dating game, but your consistency makes you a viable option. Remember, honesty can always be the swing vote that will later work in your favor. Just pray for an argument between your crush and his/her prospect anytime soon. Better yet, your consistent behavior can be the reason for their argument.

5. The Power Play

Power is a term loved by many, regardless of romantic connotations. To impress your prospect, you can build up on your career, surpassing that of your competition. He or she will then be drawn to your success, the way flies are attracted to leftovers. Complete your strategy by including him or her in your plans, at least in words. Your rival will have no choice but to scratch his or her head and go back to the old drawing board.

6. Be Unpredictable

If you are up against a seasoned player, you actually have a fighting chance. Some of his or her lines and methods are prevalent in your community, given the population of players in the world. You can be unique, as you keep your prospect perpetually guessing your next move. A surprise present, act or a pleasant shift in your mood may do just fine. The point is, if the person you like keeps thinking about your moves, he or she will eventually forget about your rival. You = 1, Rival = 0.

7. Build on Your Connection

Having a good connection with your prospect is a big plus, especially if he or she is attracted only to your rival’s Greek god-like looks. Make your conversations fun, honest and at times, playfully naughty. Your crush will soon crave for your company, deeming his or her prospect as an insignificant afterthought. Be consistent but unique with your approach and your prospect will eventually be yours.

8. Confidence Bordering Arrogance

Everyone loves challenges, even romantic prospects. By displaying unwavering confidence, the person you like will be impressed, and the same time, challenged with your demeanor. Ignore your rival, or at least try, since you are building the impression that you are absolutely not threatened. The moment your prospect tries to question your confidence, be even bolder, to the point of being a little arrogant. You can then show some sweetness or a little emotion to throw off your prospective partner’s expectations.

A relationship is ideally worked for, which is a symbol of how much you value the romantic bond. Do not fear the competition, even if he or she has a head start. Your objective is to establish yourself as a viable option. Remember, your opponent can always falter and induce a momentary heartbreak.

When that happens, just be there, with or without a deviant strategy, and get ready to absorb a ton of rants. You can then flush out the competition with your honesty and consistency. If in the end, your prospect still picks your rival, don’t feel too depressed. At least you didn’t go down lacking the necessary effort, so fight on people. For more information regarding this article, read how to get rid of dating competition.

One sure way to get your romantic prospect’s heart? Why, be sweet and romantic yourself, of course! Learn how to be romantic by trying these heartfelt tips.