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How Dating can be Unfair for Romantics
by Paul - All Posts By This Author

Dating is the stage where people get to know possible romantic prospects and mere friends through meets, conversations, and endearing acts. By going for a date, people get to size up their prospects, seeing what the other brings to the table. It is pretty exciting for many, unless you’re an old fashioned romantic. Today’s dating standards are too harsh, given the values and connotations expected to be exuded by daters. A romantic should learn how to act tremendously fake, otherwise his or her chances of getting a more serious relationship is practically thrown out the window. (See the Top 10 most romantic things to say)
People Take Advantage of Romantic Daters
Romantics have a tendency to generate emotional outpours during the timely moments. Of course, from an outpour comes genuine acts of goodwill, fueled by personal volition or the whims of your date. Wily individuals, in turn, take advantage of these acts for their own pleasure. Most of them sucker romantics to dish out presents, compliments, or even sex, until they are fully satisfied. Just like leeches, they will then drop the romantic when they have no use for him or her.

Romance is Expected from the Unromantic
Bad boys and naughty girls are more exciting than sweet talking romantics, who are often viewed as boring. That’s understandable, given the amount of mind games and banter that daters can play. The problem is, some expect genuine romance from the setup after all the games. It can happen at times, but has a pretty low batting average. Romantics, on the other hand, can easily dish out that much needed detail. However, making it further than a few dates is a bigger concern for them.
The One Hundred Percent Perfect Date
Obtuse daters are growing in number, as each day passes. They subject their prospects to their list of standards, which isn’t wrong, but they often ask for nothing less than a hundred percent. If a dater makes an itty-bitty error, despite being okay, he or she is immediately relegated to the showers. Romantics are the immediate losers. The moment they fail to project a very edgy image, they can kiss their chances goodbye. Worst of all, these obtuse daters complain the most about other daters being unfair.
Emotional Attraction is a Formula, Not a Characteristic
If you know how a person’s mind works, given today’s dating standards, you can make anyone fall in love with you, unless you’re not physically attractive in any way. Say the right things, perform the right acts, and give surprises, all with proper timing, and you can break your date’s defenses or even grab a relationship out of the whole thing. Romantics must adhere to the formula, instead of what they truly feel, if they want to get close to a serious prospect. They should know, being romantic is just like shooting yourself on the foot.
Learn to Play It Fair and Fake
Given the current dating standards, romantics have no choice but to adjust. They have to edit their personalities and learn to control their emotions, if they want to stand a chance against the competition. If they add some edge and apply the dating formula to perfection, they can’t fail always. In truth, old fashioned romance gives them an advantage in the long run as long as they learn how to play it fair and fake. If you enjoyed reading this article, might as well read how to be romantic.
